Sunday, April 27, 2014

Letting Go

I went to the dentist's office yesterday as I was waiting to pick my husband up from his appointment.   Brought some cookies in for the front desk assistants.  They do a lot and it was Administrative Professional Week.  

The two that I see there are always very nice to me.  And we actually chat a lot while in the office.  One of them is an individual going through so much with her husband.  He went in for some check up and they found a large sized tumour at the base of his neck.  They've done several surgeries on him, added a metal plate and basically, for the last 2 years, still cannot eat, has been house bound and cannot take care of himself.  

For this woman, she takes of herself and him.  No questions asked.  Has her faith and strength been tested?  Absolutely.   Time and time again.  

As I asked her about her husband, she told me he was going in for surgery again on Monday.  He'll actually be getting a metal plate removed as it's somehow obstructing his airway.  I asked to make sure she had supports so that she knew she didn't have to do things alone.  

And thank goodness she does.  When asking about her, she said she had let things go.  Come what may.  She cannot control this and she just needs to soldier on.  That indeed she does as she has no choice.  And that much I know we have in common.  

That's the thing in life. No matter what the "movie is in our heads," no matter how well we plan, there will always be something that affects what the end result will be.  Chances are, things that we don't have control over.  So plan what you can plan and let all the uncontrollable things go. 

Wishing this lady's husband a speedy recovery on this surgery and to life.  

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